As I’m continuing my search for The ONE, I decide to try and apply some rules to get healthier results. Blogs are a great source, and I have come across some invaluable advice!
The common recommendation is to put together a list of qualities of the desired man. It is all to illuminate what I am looking for.
After an afternoon of attempting to evoke the great (and not so great) guys I have dated, I am focusing on their skills, virtues and characteristics I've admired.
The following ‘catalogue’ emerged (not in any particular order):
• Kind + happy to talk politics in bed (on Saturday morning)
• Well mannered + Respectful towards others
• Cute + Warm
• Good at maths
• Confident (but relaxed)
• Funny + A bit crazy
• Entertaining (but knows when to say little)
• Aware about self and others
• Generous (including feelings)
• Has self-control (no addictions, except maybe coffee so we can match on that)
• Well wishing to others
• Creative + fast thinking (and acting)
• Wants to change the world
• Resourceful
• Problem solver
• Optimistic
• Non-materialistic (ideally socialist)
• Emotionally available
• Brave
It made my friend Matt laugh, that I stated ‘brave’ as the last quality – he would need to be brave to face those expectations!
Do you have a list or follow rules?
8 comments:
Well this is better than the 'tall, dark and rich' lists a lot of girls come up with. I like this, actually. My list would include: quirky, cute, depth, kindness, gets my sense of humour, nice smile, good cook, likes my cooking, intelligence, talent, does leave smells in the bathroom.
*Read about my dating disasters at plentymorefishoutofwater*
Interesting list. I think it's hard to remember these things though when a handsome man with quality social skills comes along and tries to sweep you off your feet :)
My list would include: must have a well rounded sense of humor, eclectic in his taste of music, cannot be a "mama's boy", emotionally available, handsome- to me.
Specificity is the foundation of happiness. Or coffee. Probably coffee, now I think about it.
Snafugirl - I like your list too. I especially like the quality social skills you've pointed out- that's so important!
Fishy - I doubt there is a girl that would not enjoy your sense of humour! And the smelly bathroom - so specific that you may need to advertise on special sites for that kind of girl. Try Date&Fart.com
Wombat - are you addicted to coffee by any chance?
Coffee? Perhaps. But I really enjoy a nice hot cup of specificity.
Being specific brings more fun in searching for the One. Or maybe I just don't want to find one? You haven't revealed your list yet Wombat...
Fancy a date?
Am I missing something or has my blog turned into dating site? Dailyspew - what's on your list?
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